Co-Parenting Recommendations during a Pandemic

A pandemic such as the Coronavirus that is causing chaotic times with our economy, health services is also having dramatic consequences on families.  Co-parents are facing unprecedented government regulations making adhering to court orders difficult.  Those families who are in the midst of an emotional legal battle in divorce proceedings, especially when it comes to child custody, are susceptible to violating custody orders.

The first recommendation that might help Co-parents avoid costly and future emotional harm would be to first communicate openly and try to resolve the issue by consent. Violating a custody order, especially over the other parent’s objection, always carries risk. Consult your family law attorney to determine how the pandemic might affect your particular situation.

In the meantime, here are some considerations in determining whether temporarily suspending parenting time is best for your child as described by the Dallas Bar Association:

·         Consider the makeup of each household. Is either parent or a member of either household, part of an at-risk group due to age or medical conditions? If so, the justification is greater for limiting a parent’s access to a child.

·         Evaluate the risk of vocational exposure. If a parent or a member of his or her household is exempt from the stay-at-home restrictions, caution may be due. Those who continue to perform their job duties, albeit at a social distance, are at a greater risk of carrying the virus, which a child can transmit between homes.

·         Devise an access plan. These times call for an exception to the general rule: co-parents should disclose their third-party contacts to one another. But, it might be fair to expect isolation from all others except an identified few, and for that to remain consistent for a defined period.

·         Remain flexible. When the NCAA summarily cancels March Madness in the name of public health, court-ordered custodial rights are no longer sacred. They are secondary concerns in this climate. Parents should be open to the possibility that suspending parenting time may serve both the public’s and the particular child’s interests.

·         Account for Lost Time. The selfless act of foregoing parenting time for a greater good might justify a reward. Co-parents should decide how they will make up for lost time in advance, optimally as part of a global agreement on the terms of isolation.

Americans have always shown resilience during times of adversity.  Together, we will overcome what is hopefully a fragment in our story allowing us to look back on our actions with admiration.

Having an attorney with the resources and knowledge to give you the best representation is vital to your interest and the interest of your family.  You also want to make sure they will exhaust all avenues and be willing to research, pursue and implement strategies to provide the best possible outcome.

Rob McAngus, Partner with Verner Brumley Parker, P.C., is Board Certified in family Law and his practice is devoted primarily to family law, including high conflict divorce, custody cases, and complex property issues. In addition to being selected on the Board of Directors for the Family Law Section of the Dallas Bar Association; he values your priorities as a parent and works with you to achieve the goals that will help transition your family to a new normal.  As both an adopted child and a member of a blended family, Rob can provide a unique perspective in the practice of family law.

Rob has been recognized in Super Lawyers as a Rising Star in 2016 through 2020, and recently The National Advocates recognized Rob as one of the Top 40 Under 40.  He can be reached by calling 214.526.5234 or email at rmcangus@vernerbrumley.com.  Mr. McAngus received his bachelor’s degree cum laude and master’s degree from Baylor University and graduated cum laude from the Dedman School of Law at Southern Methodist University.